If you eat lunch alone in your cubicle with an audiobook in your ear, then you might be doing something slightly wrong. And if you think about it, overall the people you work with are those you spend the most time with, more so than your real friends. So it’s probably best if they like you, right? If you’re struggling to get them to like you, here are some simple ways to use psychology to your advantage. For one, try to ask them questions. It’s one of the best ways to get them to like you more and allow them to learn more about you, as they will likely ask you back the same questions. Studies have actually proven that actual questions make people more likable, and it’s really not that difficult of a task.
Another rather surprising way to get your colleagues to like you is to ask them for a favor. By asking someone for a favor, you are showing them that you have confidence in their skills and knowledge. This will increase their self-esteem and will make you seem more vulnerable, which in turn will make them feel closer to you and like you more. Finding a common enemy will give you something to rant about together, and will also show your co-workers that the two of you are rather similar, with the same opinions and values. It’s also useful to really show them that you are listening to them. Engage in eye contact and greet them with friendliness and attention.