Should We Congratulate People On Weight Loss?
We very commonly and naturally congratulate people for losing weight. It seems completely harmless, and highly encouraging from our point of view, right? But perhaps we need to stop and start to think about how it may make the person really feel. In all honesty, as much as we may be trying to be nice, it’s not our place to comment about other people’s bodies. It’s a very private topic that we often don’t give enough sensitivity to.
Sometimes comments that are intended to be positive can even do more harm than good if we don’t really know the person. We can never really know what’s really going on in someone else’s life, whether it be due to illnesses, anxiety, or medication changes.
Even if someone is making conscious efforts, such as eating healthier and excersing more often, complimenting them on their body is still not the best way to go. We should be focusing more on happiness and health, not only on the weight loss and their body shape.
Society has decided that health and weight loss will always be related, but sometimes being skinny does not mean the person is healthy. You can’t tell how healthy or how someone is feeling by merely looking at them.
In some cases, overly praising someone for their body can even lead to disordered eating, causing people to think they will only be liked, or will gain more popularity if they reach a certain ideal body size.
You can still compliment people, and it is in fact encouraged to tell your friends how great they look. However there are plenty of ways to do so, unrelated to their size. Compliment them on how happy they seem, or how they seem to be glowing. Because health and happiness comes in all shapes and sizes.